Monday, October 20, 2008

Benefits Of Online Dating

Do you believe in online dating? I do.
I have many friends who are still single at their late thirties. They are all highly qualified professionals in their fields and wonderful ladies with all the good qualities of a life partner but somehow, cupid is not knocking on their doors. I always encourage them to go for online dating. But I can see the curiosity in their eyes when I talk about online dating.
"Online dating is for those single at their early twenties or maybe younger, it is for fun not for serious dating, not for marriage. " I was told. Is that true? I don't agree with it. In fact, I see a lot of advantages and benefits of online dating.
  1. Affordable-Save Dollars and Save Time
    Yes. I am saying affordable. Have you ever count how much you need to spend to meet a dating partner in person? Simple as drink, transportation fee etc all is costing money. Worse thing is you may meet up with one person you don't want to see him/her again in your life. Online dating services is different, most of them are completely free to join and you don’t have to pay a cent until you want unlimited communications. In other words, until you’ve met people you like and you decide to see him/her in person. Even some online dating site charge a small amount of  subscription fee for more advantages on choosing the right partner, most of the cost around $20 a month – less than a single night on the town! Talk about save time, as you know many of us still can not find the MS/MR Right, because we are too busy to go for dating. The Internet is up all day and night and never sleeps. In fact, there are a lot of people online that never sleep, either. You have the luxury of searching for a soul mate anytime, day or night. You could never do this in the real life.
  2. Choices!
    With so many people online, you can engage multiple prospects at once, as well. You might never be dating 3 or 4 prospects at a time in the real world but, online, you can. This gives you honest choices about the relationships you wish to pursue. You can pursue several possibilities at once without earning yourself a reputation or hurting anyone’s feelings, to see who emerges as the most likely candidate for your affections. Regular dating is pretty much a shot in the dark - you like someone, you date, and then discover something you really don’t like! It’s disappointing at best, heartbreaking at worst. Online dating profiles and initial one-to-one communications give you information up front so you can make better choices and follow them through with confidence.

  3. Be You!
    Another advantages of online dating-Be you. You can reveal things about yourself that you usually hide or play down without any fear of losing out in the dating stakes. Because you are completely anonymous. You are just like travelling to a city you are first time there, no one know you. You are yourself. You like this you don't like that, you don't need to put up a mask. You can share with others your ideas, your experiences, beliefs, anything about your life with no distractions. My lady friend told me, she go for online dating, she feel the freedom. She told the chatting partner, she doesn't like cooking, doesn't like to do housework, doesn't like to stay with in-laws, very straight forward. A lot of men disappear after one time chatting online. But in the end she did meet her Mr.Right, they are leading a happy marriage life now. There is nothing wrong with your own opinions in life. That is very important that  you must be honest to yourself. If you are shy in social or dating situations, you are still able to express yourself in writing to a potential mate without revealing your social shortcomings, if you have any. The person can get to see the real you. With online dating, you can start a relationship as the REAL YOU.
  4. Privacy and Safety
  5. Another one of the great benefits of online dating is that you have the ability to meet with people without exposing yourself. Imagine the person you have dated before one day could be your boss, how embarrassed you are! Not everybody is good in talking, not every one like to hang out in bars and clubs. Online dating is as good as it gets for choice and opportunity, and it’s available from home. Yes, you are dating at home. You are safer. You don't need to worry the new known person will sneak a peek at your ID, follow you home or take advantage of the fact that you’ve had a few drinks. Follow some basic safety tips and use you common sense, online dating is much safer than you meet in person. If you feel she/he is not your Mr.Right, you can easily call it quits before any serious emotions and hurt feelings are inevitable, anonymity and physical separation make it easier to break up and move on.
Internet dating is a powerful force to help the socially challenged find a soul mate. If you don't have a lot of confidence, if you are very shy, or your working time is different from others, you don't have much time to hang around, the Internet may be an excellent way to meet someone who is just like the lover you have always dreamed about.
Is that true? What do you think?

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